The Blind Side

My dear sweet, sister-in-law Kelli is on a mission. She is determined to help me meet my match. She has gone thru everyone of her friends on Facebook, every family friend, every co-worker and has finally found one guy she thinks I should try to go out with. He is 31, with twin girls and tattoos. Tat-daddie is what we will call him.

Now Kelli and her friend Candace approached Tat-Daddie and asked him if he was single and if he would be willing to go out on a date with me. He said only if I was cute. Well Kelli only had to show him one facebook photo of me and he was on board. Numbers were exchanged and I was sent an email that said I should be expecting a phone call soon.

I have to say, I'm excited about the potential date, but blind dates make me just as nervous as anyone, but it is 2010, so there doesn't have to be anything blind about this at all. I quickly typed in Tat-Daddies names on facebook and BAM! There he is. Anything I needed to know about my potential hunka-hunka is there. I now know anything about him that would be discussed on a first date, his interests, his work, the kind of music and movies that he likes. This internet speed dating business is the shiz.

I take a look at a couple of pictures and yes, he is quite adorable. I'm on board at this point. Nothing as of yet has scared me away. I had to wait a full 24 hours to recieve a text from Tat-Daddie, and it was right in the middle of my very busy work day. I barely got to talk to him and I had to apologize about not being able to talk to him, because he was not just texting, he was writing short novels trying to get to know me. I have a feeling that we will be going out this weekend and I am extrememly nervous.

Do people really meet their better-halves thru blind dates? I'm really going to put my love life in the hands of my sister-in-law, going off just her word that she thinks this guy will be good for me? What if my heart gets broken? Do I go to her crying and feeling mildly annoyed with myself for letting her take over?

I guess we'll all have to see. Wish me luck my friends, and let the blind dating begin!

Friends Ex's

There is an invisible line that has been drawn on dating your friends ex, but when, if ever, does that line get removed? I've recently been talking to a guy that I'm not quite sure if I'm completely interested in dating, but I do enjoy talking to him and I think hanging out with him would be an experience that would be...interesting. Problem is, that my friend dated him for two years and now they aren't really on speaking terms at all. My friend has completely moved on, is now in a happy and stable relationship, but is a few dates worth risking our friendship?

Now, I've recently adopted the motto that I don't date my ex's friends, so I guess it should be the same with I won't date my friends ex's? Then how many people does that cut out of my available bachelors? About all but two. I will admit though, unless I had moved on, that I wouldn't handle it so well to see one of my friends with my ex.

I have a group of guy friends that this rule doesn't seem to apply at all. They share girls like girls share secrets. I don't see how this works out without them ever fighting but it seems to be something they are quite proud of. One guy brings a girl into the group, they date for a quick minute, break up, and two weeks later another guy is bringing the same girl around. I had to check my jaw when that happened in front of my eyes a few weeks ago. I just didn't believe their stories until then.

I'm opening this up to you, my friends. I know most of you will drop me a line on your opinion, and that's exactly what I'm hoping for.

What do you think about dating your friends ex? Or dating your ex's friends?

xoxo
Dacia

Too young for one so old.

People say that when your ready for love, it's harder to find it, and I say "Amen".

I recently took myself "off the market" but the problem was, is that nobody really knew it. I guess when you think your dating someone, the other person should probably agree to dating just you too. I started dating someone who was younger than me, but I don't know if you can really even call what we were doing as "dating". I'm 25 and he's 22....I know your already starting to do your eye roll, but please people...just read on.

Mr. 22 and I get along great. There really is no exaggeration there. I admire him as a person, no one can say that he isn't a great friend, or just a good person in general. He works hard, and loves to have fun. He snores like a freaking bull but that's okay, because it's kinda cute too. The one main thing that gets my heart is the way he is with Kyra.

So Mr. 22 isn't ready for a serious thing, and how could I possibly be mad at that? Hell, when I was 22, I was out every single night, not a care in the world, burning up way too many brain cells than I had available to lose. Mr. 22 is in that stage where that's what he wants to do, and he's absolutely able to do it, I think I'm actually a little envious, but don't tell him that. I had more fun with 22 than I've had in a while.

I think the hardest part about breaking up with someone that I was never with to begin with is that I need to find my nitch again. I mean I was with this guy and his friends almost every weekend and throughout most of the week for the past 4 months, and they've all grown to love my little mini-me. It's hard to think about not spending time with the people I now consider my friends, even though it's a constant thing for them to make fun of me, I've grown to love it and now don't really want to see that gone.

Although I actually wanted to be in a relationship with 22, there were thoughts I had about it that scared me too. I'm definitely afraid of settling down and not being able to come and go as I please all the time. I don't want to not be able to pack up and travel to see my girlfriends out of state every few months, or going out and having to tell someone my plans or worry about money for the two of us all the time. I like not worrying if someone texts me that I'll get in trouble, I also like the fact that I can say the words "No, I'm single" if some gorgeous guy approaches me to ask me out. But really, I can't look at you in the eye and lie and say that any of those things would really make me risk love if I had it. Mr. 22 and I will continue to be friends but I can't keep putting him in the center of my world. I gotta say though, I'll miss that stupid cocky smile.

Now I'm back people, and once again diving into the dating cesspool. Oh geez.